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Ready, Set, Change! January 9, 2011

Posted by Ann Bertorelli in ontological coaching, Self-Development.
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Last week’s post was about starting a new year, not with resolutions but with the setting of intentions. After I posted   it, my friend Karen sent me a post by Chris Brogan (the king of bloggers) on a similar topic. After I read Chris’ post entitled “My 3 Words for 2011”, I added another word to the two keywords that I had already selected. My previously stated keywords were Expansiveness and Service. After reading Chris’ post I have added Creativity to my list since I realized that a year without focusing on creativity would be a bleak year indeed. Take a peek at his post and see what you’re inspired to do.

Segue!!

Now a smooth segue into the topic for today…new beginnings. (See how I did that?) It’s related to last week’s topic but I’m writing it because my friend is starting a new endeavor tomorrow and I’ve been thinking about what that might mean to him as well as to those of you who read this blog. (Of course he probably won’t see one new thing in this meaningful and well-crafted nugget since he has been listening to me for quite some time but I hope you will.)

Let’s hear it for new beginnings…

New beginnings are yummy—like a brand new year, like a new boyfriend, like a new quilting project, like becoming a grandparent. You have the great opportunity to do something different and better and perhaps even to atone for the things that didn’t previously go so well. Beginnings can be scary too but most of us are smart enough to just push through the fear and get on with it.

I’m thinking back to some of the significant beginnings I’ve had in my life. Was I intentional as I embarked on the new experience? Probably not. I like to think that I am now a bit more conscious about what I want to produce than I used to be. It is, after all, my story and I’m sticking to it…

What you might consider

So if I were starting a new job tomorrow (as an example), what would I be considering? Here’s a short and thus not exhaustive list:

  • Who I want to be (the eternal ontological coaching question) Embedded in this question is some awareness of what I bring that is unique or special. What are my talents and skills that can add value in the new situation? What values do I believe it necessary to embody no matter how fabulous or not-so-fabulous the situation is? What is my promise to the world—or at least the part of the world that I inhabit?
  • What mistakes or missteps I made in the past that produced results that I didn’t value. Sometimes it’s possible to identify these without knowing how we could have done any better. Not to worry. That’s where my oft repeated mantra of INTENTION comes into play. I may not know how to be better but if I have a pretty clear picture of what I’m going for, I can use that as my North Star. From that picture, actions will either be ruled out or suggested based on my stated intention.
  • What value I want to produce for myself in the proposition. Make no mistake–unless you are producing value for yourself in addition to producing value for others—you won’t be having fun. And really, why the heck do anything if you’re not having fun? Especially if that ‘anything’ happens to be a job that takes up 40-60 hours a week of your time.

Now you try

How about you start something new?  Do something different. Start small if you really, really hate change. Today when I pulled into the Borders parking lot I made the heroic decision to park in a different section of the parking lot than I have been parking in for the last 10 years or so…Gutsy—maybe not. But it reminds me that I am about making changes, big and small. Changes, that is, that are productive and fun…

Wanna try?

–Amara

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