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Choose Peace April 23, 2013

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I’ve been on a rampage of self-improvement and growth activities lately. I’m loving this period of time when I’m not seeing a whole lot of people or doing a  lot of activities, just going within and seeing what’s available there. I  highly recommend it—we all need to stop and take stock every once in a while. Oops, did you notice that rhymes or almost? Glad I’m not doing an audio blog. But I digress.

One thing I have been doing is working on a new web site to re-launch my life coaching practice, Life Coaching With Spirit. Stay tuned for that…

In the midst of a lot of internet research, I came across this wonderful video and I’d like to share it with just a few words afterward. (OK, maybe more than a few, but not that many.)

Tough Stuff Out There

There’s a lot of difficult stuff going on in the world today. Sometimes I feel like throwing up my hands and going to live in a cave somewhere—a cave with running water and a place for my sewing machine. However, I know that I can’t/won’t do that. It’s my job to stay and see what I can contribute to things. I recently listened to Wayne Dyer who quoted Lao-Tzu, the Chinese prophet who wrote the Tao Te Ching. He said, “A bad man is a good man’s job and a good man is a bad man’s teacher.” (insert woman too—no PC in China at that time)

Choose Peace in Your World

Those of us who want to make a difference a positive contribution to this crazy, crazy world would do well to choose peace for ourselves first—then we can be the model that others rely on.

What does that look like? Well, maybe it looks like NOT screaming “Asshole” at the guy who almost causes you to have an accident because he stopped in the middle of the turn lane. Or finding a way to see the another side to the story when your child is hurt by another. Or choosing not to yell at your kids when they don’t do their chores. Hmmm, could be a full time job. But how can we expect peace in the world when we don’t know how to have it within ourselves? As above, so below, as within, so without…

Sermonette over—for now.

–Amara

What to Do With Bad News February 3, 2013

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537962_228700923911787_1739544636_nLast week was a challenging week for me and for a whole lot of people I care about. We all got some bad news and suddenly our futures looked a whole lot different than we had thought. The seeker and coach in me watched myself move through the process and it was interesting.

The first thing that occurred to me is that this whole thing was very similar to a death. And there are five classic stages of grief according to Elizabeth Kubler-Ross: denial, anger,bargaining,depression, and acceptance. And the advice is to go through each stage as consciously as you can—not trying to rush to feel better but to sit with where you happen to be. It’s been my experience if you try to short-circuit any of these stages, they simply come back to you bigger and ‘better’ than before. It’s the way we’re wired as human types. I’ve watched people trying to distract themselves to pretend that the trauma in their life is done with and that they have moved on—before they have actually done the grief work. It never works…(wow—quite an unequivocal statement for me).

So what did I do to come to terms with the bad news? Well, it’s not like I’m finished but I am making progress. First of all I sat with it and all the implications of this ending. Whew, that was tough and I’m not finished yet. Then I allowed myself to awfulize about the terrible consequences that could be mine. Then I got good and angry at a number of people and blamed a few of them. Boy, that felt good—for about a day.

Then I made a sincere declaration to myself that I was not going to stay in a place of depression and hopelessness. I mean a stamp-your-foot-to-the- universe kind of declaration. Not freaking going there, universe. It’s not fun and I like to have fun. And with that (and the help of one Advil PM at night, daily meditation, some conversations, and some prayer thrown in) I found that a sense of serenity returned. Is everything perfect? Hell, no. Am I ok? Hell, yes!

When shit happens as it inevitably does, the thing that gets me back on a more even keel is perspective. Is this a difficult issue? Yup. But when I reflect on the blessings that my life holds and will continue to hold, I realize that this is a blip on the screen.

And with a little bit of luck, this post will help one or many of you out there when the universe rains on your parade.

—Amara

3 Ways to Be Happy When You Think You’re Not May 14, 2012

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 tango shoes by godwin lue Maybe you’ve noticed (and I hope you have) that I haven’t written a post since January—egad—really?  My family has been going through an extended difficult period and it’s caused me to be extremely preoccupied with support activities. I’ve been intending to sit down for weeks now and just write whether I had the energy and  passion for it or not. But alas, the spirit has been willing but the body weak.Or perhaps vice versa.

So today is the day for some reason known only to the gods—or God. I’ve been reflecting on how one goes about being happy in the face of being surrounded by challenges that are crazy-making rather than happy-making. And I have been working that little problem for months now, sistahs and bros.

Here’s what I’ve come up with. Hope it helps you because it seems most everyone I know is in the midst of something. I’m beginning to think that’s what was meant about the world coming to an end in 2012. Old stuff is ending and new stuff is coming in..But I digress.

So here are three strategies I’ve come up with. Not rocket science but they sure have helped me.

#1 Make a declaration

Make the declaration that you are going to be happy and peaceful even in the face of the crazy-making shit that happens. Yeah, so to do that, it’s probably helpful to stop thinking about events as “crazy-making shit.” Rather, start thinking of the events as merely events– ascribing no particular judgment to them. My massage therapist, Annie suggests that you pretend you’re watching a movie.  I like movies. And as far as the declaration goes, I envision stamping my foot at the Universe and saying, “I AM happy, and at peace, period. “

Does this magically fix everything? Of course not, but if you stay stubborn about it, it sure does make the joyful and peaceful moments more plentiful. Something’s better than nothing. Just remember that even if it seems not to be working, the fact that you have declared it paves the way for it to be so.

#2 Be wherever you are

A lot of us get really nutty because we have some kind of assessment that we should be happy all the time. And if we’re not, we judge ourselves not spiritual, grateful, resilient,or (fill in with your favorite guilt –producing adjective.) I believe it’s important to acknowledge that it’s ok to be down in the mouth sometimes. Even Mother Theresa felt that God had turned his back on her at times—and if it’s good enough for Mother Theresa, it’s good enough for me.

So if you’re sad—be sad. If you’re listless, be that really, really well. And if you’re happy then jump for joy and revel in it. Our emotions don’t cease to exist when we ignore them—they simply go underground never to be heard from again until our back starts hurting or we get some kind of disease. Just say no that! The way healing modalities therapies that help to release feelings that have taken up residence in your body. Do a web search—you’ll find a bunch of them.

#3 Find something that totally occupies your mind and do it

I’m the first one to admit that too much navel-gazing does not a fun-gal or guy make. Yes, it’s important to know where you are but you don’t have to make your problems a way of life, carrying them around like your favorite backpack. There are times when it’s helpful to distract yourself so that you can come back and see your life situation anew.

I remember in the old days when I used to balance my bank account using my checkbook. (before I could go on the internet and track my account daily.) I’d try and try to figure out where that missing $10.50 got to. Then I”d pick up and leave it for an hour or two. When I came back, the error jumped right out at me, begging to be corrected. It was there all the time but I just couldn’t see the forest for the trees.

This is a long way of saying—get a little distance from your stuff as often as you need to. And pick something that leaves little room for you to stew. I dance Argentine Tango—an activity that demands my complete attention. If I think about my problems, I suck as a dancer—or I get my foot stepped on. Don’t care for either of those alternatives so I stay present. And lo and behold, when I come back to my ‘problems,’ they look a little different.

So there you have it, boys and girls, the truth as I know it. It’s worked for me and I offer it to you with my very best wishes for peace and joy.

–Amara

Three Ways to Appreciate Yourself When No One Else Seems To January 15, 2012

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I guess we all go though times when can sing the old childhood favorite:

Nobody likes me; everybody hates me. Guess I’ll go eat worms. Big fat juicy ones, (and so on.)

You probably know the feeling. It seems that no one gets how great you are and what you have to offer, or they don’t seem to respect you for the great skills and talents you bring. Notice I have chosen the word ‘seem’ because most of the time when we are feeling that way it’s because of an inner dialogue we are having with ourselves. The more we stew on it, the worse it gets and pretty soon our mood is in the ditch and we are in the land of victimhood—one of my personal favorites.(NOT)

What can you do when you find yourself hanging out in this desolate wasteland? Well, just for you I have come up with some tried and true remedies to get you through the night, the day, or the week. Any longer than a week and you’re in danger of adopting a new way of life…yuk!

So here goes:

#1  Make what others think of you ‘mildly interesting.’

If you base your happiness solely on what others think of you, you’re looking for love in all the wrong places. The person who needs to think highly of you is? (for $1000 and a trip to Belgravia) Yep, that’s right—you. Often we are tempted to take personally what others say and do—making it all about us and our shortcomings or lack of value. Try this interpretation—it is never about you. It’s always about them. People see the world through their set of values and experiences—what I refer to as their background of obviousness or BOO. So if they are judging you as falling short, it’s more about their own world than it is yours. So how about making the assessments of others about you, mildly interesting?

I had a coach who used to tell me that when I would whine about something. Mildly interesting means you don’t discount it since their opinions may contain a nugget for you. However it also means that while their opinions are interesting, they do not rock your world.

#2  Make a list of your accomplishments/talents

We all have a very silly tendency to dwell on what’s not right about us. When you think about that it’s kind of crazy really. We have about a million choices in how we think of ourselves –or at least two. We can either think we are great or we can think we’re lacking. Hmmm, let me see. Which one of those choices makes us feel the best? We’re great or we are the dregs of the earth…let me take a WAG (wild-ass guess) here. I think it feels better to think we’re ok, worthy, good, talented, etc.. Now if it makes you feel good to think you are totally worthless, well, ok. But you don’t need a coach—I’d shoot for a psychologist or psychiatrist or some psych…

I was having a conversation with a friend of mine today about our tango milonga last night. He was commenting on the fact that he was much in demand as a partner. After that remark he said, “I hope I’m not being too big for my britches. (Being raised in Texas, that’s one of my favorite sayings.) My response was, “If you’ve got it, you may as well flaunt it.”

So take 5 or 10 minutes to sit down and write down the things that are good about you. No, not one word about what you need to improve. Bet you $10 you’ll feel better after doing it.

#3 Just Say NO

When I find myself going into the self-pity mode, or the I-am-an-unworthy- human-being place and I don’t feel like having a pity party, I just stomp my foot and say NO! You’d be surprised how much better this can make you feel. Especially the foot stomping part. Just make sure the little children are safely out of your way when you do it.

There’s something very empowering about deciding what mood you’re going to be in. And we all have the power to do that—if we choose.

I wouldn’t kid ya..

–Amara

An Approach to a New Year January 4, 2012

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Wow—2012…or should I say the dreaded 2012…Supposed to be a significant year of change–or disasters, depending who you talk to. I was thinking about my intentions for the New Year the other day. It was New Year’s Day and I was cleaning out my refrigerator. Now that may seem like a mundane thing to be doing on a holiday but I thought it pretty symbolic. Think about it–getting rid of the rotten/spoiled stuff and starting over. Yes!

What you do on New Year’s Day…

There is a saying that whatever you do on New Year’s Day is what you’ll be doing for the rest of the year. As I thought about that I decided that while I don’t want to be cleaning out the refrigerator all year, there are some things associated with the activity that I wouldn’t mind carrying along through the year.

Try a little awareness

Cleaning out a fridge can be pretty mindless if you let it. But while I was doing it I started thinking about a book that I’m currently reading. It’s called The Secret of Instant Healing by Dr. Frank J. Kinslow. One of the points Dr. Kinslow makes about healing is that awareness is key to the process. He has some exercises in the book that have the reader start to become aware of awareness. So as I was scrubbing and rearranging, I began to practice awareness. Rather than thinking about tango steps or the next thing on my to-do list, I simply focused 100% of my attention on what I was doing. Dr. Kinslow (and many, many others) say that true awareness is where your higher consciousness/God resides.

So I tried staying exactly in the moment. I’d love to tell you that some miracle happened and maybe the fact that I actually enjoyed (for a moment or two) cleaning the fridge is indeed the miracle.

I wouldn’t mind being more aware

My point is that if that activity is a pre-cursor for what I want to produce and be in 2012, then I will be well-satisfied. If I can sit in awareness more of the time, I can produce more of the good stuff and less of the mindless, automatic pilot stuff that comes up when I check out.

I can really get into the question of who I’m being in the important and trivial moments of my life. Maybe I can even stop dwelling on my imperfections and become more in touch with what’s right about me.

Drop the awfulizing

How about you? Are you willing to be aware of and stay in the moment as you live your life? Can you give up awfulizing, fantasizing, moralizing and any other ‘izing’ that keeps you from realizing (another one—but good) your great potential? Yes, we all have great potential for something…

Your mission– should you choose to accept it

Here’s your assignment: For one week, choose to focus on the task or activity that you have decided to engage in. Don’t do it half-assed. If you’re brushing the dog, then brush the dog with awareness. If you’re listening to your friend’s tale of woe, then be in the moment with her, not just waiting to jump in with a nugget of wisdom. Who knows– you might discover something really amazing about your life.

–Amara

Lessons from a Snow Storm November 13, 2011

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A perfect storm hit the East Coast on October 29th. When I first heard that snow was expected in my area on that Saturday, I dismissed it. Snow this early would surely be a non-event. Another case of Jim Cantore getting hysterical about a weather event that would pass over. And then it started to snow… What I had not taken into consideration was that the snow was extremely wet and heavy and the leaves were still on the trees—a condition that would make for an extremely dangerous situation.

This was not your ordinary snow storm

The first hint that this was going to be an event to be reckoned with was when it started snowing early on Saturday morning. It had been predicted to start at 1 PM—uh-oh. And since the snow was extremely wet, it stuck to everything, including the still-leafy trees. And it kept on snowing. About noon I began to hear periodic cracking in the wooded area around my house. This continued all day. The tree limbs were breaking under the weight of the snow. It occurred to me then that I was going to lose power and I better get prepared. (Better never than late.) So I started to cook. And just as I got out the pots and the ingredients, the power went out—not to come back on for 3 days—and that was good. Many homes were out for almost an entire week.

Turns out that Berks County PA was the ‘epicenter’ for the storm in the Philadelphia/Lehigh region. And my beautifully wooded neighborhood was very hard-hit. As I observed the damage the next day, the word ‘war-zone’ came to mind.

A chance to learn a few more lessons

Those three days were quite difficult and certainly not without their lessons. And naturally I intend to capture some of those lessons in this post.

Lesson #1

So what did I learn? First—be prepared. Yes, I was a Girl Scout—but that was a long time ago. I have re-dedicated myself to that very worthy goal. Being without electricity for three and a half days meant that I virtually got nothing done. I spent my time trying to figure out how to eat warm food and how to stay warm in an unheated house. My son helped me out by lending me a kerosene heater which I finally got fired up about two hours before the power came back. The biggest concern was how to have a hot drink. I tried heating water on my grill and destroyed two of my pots in the process. And when I finally did get the water hot, it stayed warm about 10 minutes since my house was about 48 degrees—sometimes even up to 50.

I have since purchased a propane stove and a propane lantern. My next door neighbor who is an HVAC contractor has offered to hook up a gas heater for me so that I can have heat even without electricity. And if I lose power in the summer months—I’ll go outside, I guess.

Lesson #2

My second lesson was to renew my gratitude for things I often take for granted—like electricity. Life is ever so much easier when the power is on. And I reflect a bit on that each day.

And so on…

Another lesson I learned was to listen and be more sensitive to other people’s troubles. I think I’m pretty good at that already but after this experience I think I can be even better. What prompted this was some of the stupid things people (who had not lost electricity) said to me. When I was on the third day of outage with a promise of least more day ahead, someone said to me. “Oh, well, you only have to wait until tomorrow—that’s not too bad.” That’s what you think, Bub….

So I have resolved to listen more generously when others speak about their problems.

I have reflected before that we silly humans learn our lessons during Significant Emotional Events. Try as I might I have not managed to change that in my own life. So I guess I’ll just take the lessons where they come. You?

—Amara

Belonging October 2, 2011

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I am sitting in a small bakery in an interesting neighborhood of Louisville Kentucky. The name of the bakery is Breadworks and the neighborhood is called The Highlands. I love the neighborhood because it is very eclectic. There are an interesting variety of businesses located on the main thoroughfare of the neighborhood—Bardstown Road. And the homes located in the neighborhood are a mix of styles and price points. Many of the homes date from the well-known Craftsman era of home-building in our country which began in the early 1900’s and continued into the 1930’s.That gives you an idea of the age of The Highlands. I love these old homes because many of them have graceful front porches which the owners have carefully furnished as an outdoor room.

The bakery is located on a street which is referred to as Douglass Loop—an area where the old streetcars used to turn around to go back into the heart of the city. (And the ‘Douglass’ comes from Frederick Douglass, the former slave and abolitionist who was a presence in the city.) I am always intrigued by the history of a place where I live or visit. I often feel as though I’m a part of that history by simply showing up there.

But probably the most interesting thing about the neighborhood is that it is a community. People here tend to shop in the neighborhood. The bakery that I am now sitting in is a small business but one that is a meeting place for people in the neighborhood. I have been here on weekends when a group of the locals holds court in one of the pews that serves as seating for several tables. And it seems that everyone who walks in the door knows everyone else. That said, I don’t feel unwelcome here—this is Kentucky after all.trolleyhistory

Noticing the activity in the bakery got me thinking about community and its power to enrich lives. The town I live in is a nice place to live but the neighborhoods in my town are not so clearly defined. So you have to consciously search for community to feel a part of one. To me there is something cozy about being part of a community, whatever its makeup. We humans (for the most part) need to feel part of something bigger than ourselves.

Communities are made up of people who have something—or a lot of somethings  in common. This begs the question of how you create community if you’re not part of one. Churches are an obvious place where strong communities exist. In my own life I have become part of a number of communities that fill my need to belong. My circle of friends in my tango community is very fulfilling to me. This community was created with great intention by Lori Coyle-Magen who runs Sangha Space in Media, PA. My book group which has been meeting monthly for six or seven years is also an important part of my life. We have consciously kept the number to 8 people and invite new members whom we believe share our goals and standards for reading.

I think that as long as human beings value and nurture community we will be ok. It’s when we forget that we are all human beings with the same needs and desires that things get out of kilter. Now more than ever it’s important to “Think globally, act locally.”  And that’s why we need community.

I’d love to hear about your favorite communities…

–Amara

Ode to a Watermelon July 24, 2011

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Happy Birthday to me, Happy Birthday to me…My birthday was last Monday and I have been celebrating with various friends for the entire week. Here is a story that I shared with my friend and he convinced me that I should post it today. Fine, I wrote back, , but what’s the lesson? I need to make a point. We went back and forth. He suggested it might have had to do with ‘already listening.’ I thought maybe assessments would be appropriate or perhaps how to love yourself even with you are being a ditz.

Finally I settled on his first suggestion. Just share it because it’s hysterical. So I offer you this story as a bit of comic relief from the rigors of 100+ degree heat (if that applies where you are). And at the very least you can have a small chuckle. Here’s the story…

The Story

Yesterday in the continuing pageant that is my birthday week, my friend Mary took me to lunch. We had a lovely time and on the way home we decided to stop at one of the many produce stands along the way. We went in and one of the choices that we made was a large seedless watermelon with yellow fruit–a detail that may seem immaterial but which will add to the visual in a moment.

The produce store was located at the top of a gentle but rather long hill. I came out of the store into 100 degree heat which I can only think must have instantly fried my brain. I needed to open the back hatch of my car to place the vegetables into the car, however, my hands were full. For some reason only known to the angels above, I decided to place the watermelon on the ground behind the car while I opened the hatch. (You’re getting this, right?) I put the bags in and leaned down to grab the very round and somewhat heavy watermelon.

OMG, it was gone. I looked around only to find it rolling lazily down the aforementioned gentle but very long hill. And the damn thing had gotten a head start on me–and it was still 100+ degrees. I jogged after it but could not prevent its escape onto the very busy road beside the store. I watched as it rolled steadfastly into the right hand lane just at the exact moment that a car was coming by. And positioned itself just exactly under the front wheels of that car at the precise moment that would result in its demise. Splat! The watermelon was history and there were yellow watermelon guts spread all over the road. The people in the car turned their heads in unison to glare at me.

What are the odds?

Yes, I was the one who was consumed with the giggles at the whole ridiculous situation. Now if I had wanted to roll a damn watermelon down a hill and have a car hit it and split it wide open, what are the chances that I would have succeeded?

Went in and bought another one and it’s amazingly good–maybe the first one was poison or something. And Mary and I laughed all the way home.

Smile

–Amara

Plant a Daffodil July 17, 2011

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cccommons byandyhayI came across a story called The Daffodil Principle written by  Jaroldeen Asplund Edwards.  I don’t know if it’ s a true story but it really doesn’t matter because the meaning of the story is so wonderful.

The story is told by a narrator who goes to visit her daughter who then takes her to look at the property of a woman who has transformed her plot of land by planting 50,000 daffodil bulbs over many years. The result was an amazing display of blooms which transfixed and inspirited the people who saw it. For the entire story (which is quite short) follow this link: Daffodil Principle

The main character says

When we multiply tiny pieces of time with small increments of daily effort, we too will find we can accomplish magnificent things. We can change the world.

Small actions can have a big effect

This story resonated with me because I believe that even small actions on our part can change the world in unimaginable and significant ways. One of the guiding principles for me as I coach others is the belief that I am changing the world one conversation at a time.

Before you start poo-pooing (gosh, wonder if I spelled that right) that notion, sit for a moment and think  of the times that someone has pointed out to you something that you said or did that had a profound effect on how they viewed the world or what they chose to do. You know you’ve heard that. And you’ve more than likely only heard a tiny number of the examples that others could come up with.

Here are some examples from my own little world.

  • My friend Jane, who loves to sew, is extraordinarily generous in teaching and working with others who would like to better their skills
  • Annie, my massage therapist, has taught me how to be ‘in my body’ and thus more in touch with how things are with me by using my body as an emotional guidance system.
  • My granddaughter has inspired me to be a stronger woman by her own observations about who she is as she starts the journey to adulthood

Are you aware of who you’re being?

I could go on and on, and so could you. How do you feel when you think that your own actions and words are changing the world? Good? Or a little nervous? If you have a nagging feeling that you may not always be changing the world in the way that you’d like, maybe it’s time to put a little intention behind that.

What kind of impact would you like to have?

Put your thinking cap on…What intention would you like to live into? Maybe it’s demonstrating more kindness than necessary, maybe it’s showing self-reliance or devotion to family. Maybe it’s keeping your lawn in impeccable condition. Whatever it is, know that simply by a little consciousness to your intention, some energy and a few actions behind it, you will have an impact on someone in your world,

How’s that feel?

–Amara

Gratitude—Are You Kidding Me? July 10, 2011

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I am confident that I am coming to the end of the ongoing saga of my eye/seeing issues so maybe,just maybe I’m going to  stop writing about it and go on to different topics. But not this week…

I am grateful for a lot of things…

I’ve been giving some thought to what blessings have been mine as a result of my unexpected journey into eye surgeries and the subsequent recovery time. Here are some of my notices:

  • Wow, my house has never looked so clean—emphasis on ‘looked’. When my eyesight was less that great, my house looked just fine to me. And since I’m often thinking that I need to do a better job at housecleaning—that was a good thing. Of course, now that I am seeing pretty darn well, it doesn’t look as pristine as it did before. Hearkens me back to the old saying, “Ignorance is bliss.”
  • Since I wasn’t able to bend over or lift anything above 5 pounds there were a whole lot of tasks that I just could not do—weeding, putting my pots and pans away,etc. So when you can’t do something you either accept someone else’s help or you let it go. Both of those are nice alternatives. I was attempting to mow my lawn a couple of weeks ago. I looked up to see my next door neighbor standing next to me. He shook his finger at me and promptly commandeered the lawn mower and finished the lawn. Wonderful. And then Larry planted my peppers, trimmed the bushes and made himself useful as well as ornamental. I could get used to this.
  • One thing I could do during the entire journey was to quilt. This is the last thing that I would have expected and it’s yet another one of those blessings that arose. Since I was not working and unable to do any heavy lifting, I felt perfectly justified in spending as much time as I wanted in my quilting studio. And even though at times I had to look through just one eye, I made a lot of progress.

Gratitude is not for sissies

This list could go on but that would be boring and I surely don’t want to bore you. I’m in the business of giving you things to think about. So think about this….GRATITUDE—it’s not for sissies. Sometimes it’s easy to feel grateful—and sometimes it is decidedly not easy. However, if you persevere you’ll find that it changes your life in an imperceptible way—for the better of course.

I often advise my clients to start and to keep a gratitude journal. You might want to try that. You don’t necessarily have to write in it everyday but the practice of maintaining it does a couple of things. First, it keeps you out of the ‘poor me’ mentality which is not a bit sexy. Secondly, by staying grateful for the many blessings in your life (and there are many,I promise you) you position yourself to better attract even more good things to you. If you haven’t read up on Law of Attraction—do it instantly! And if you haven’t heard of The Secret you have probably been living in a cave somewhere.

Try it—you’ll like it

What would it be like if you consciously practiced gratitude for a month or even a week? At the very least you’d feel better about your life and maybe you’d even win the lottery. You heard it here, so if you do win the lottery I will happily accept donations which would enable you to show even more gratitude.  🙂

—Amara