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Change Not Optional January 16, 2011

Posted by Ann Bertorelli in Personal Observations, Political Scene.
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Last week the title of my post was Ready, Set, Change. This week I had intended to write about some of my favorite book recommendations. However, following the events of last Saturday in Tucson, I have been immersed in thinking about my country and wondering what the hell is going on.

Yet another terrible story…

I am not prone to awfulizing and making sweeping generalizations about ‘how bad things are,’ since I believe that constantly beating the drum about something creates more of it. That said, I have to say that I am tired to the depths of my soul of hearing of yet another shocking example of meaningless violence.

This post is going to be short (and not so sweet). We may each of us feel that we are not responsible for the actions of a misguided young man. However, we are all part of a national creation of ‘the way things are.’ And that creation has too much room for violence. Violence which takes the place of discussion/dialogue for the sake of understanding and respecting view points that differ from our own. And I know that I am as guilty of that as the next person—and you,my friend could be the next person.

We only want to be around those who think as we do

Lynne McTaggert wrote a very thought-provoking post about where we’ve come. Lynne’s post She said something in that post that has really stuck with me. She says that we only want to be around and respect those who think just as we do. In examining my conscience about that I have come to the conclusion that I have fallen into that way of being—and I need to do something different.

The power of intention

You know how much I write about the power of intention. Well, I think it’s high time that we intended something different for our country. The consciousness of a country can be changed one person at a time, one conversation at a time. While this may seem at times like trying to empty the ocean with a tea cup, I offer that we often don’t know the power of our own efforts and contributions.

I think Americans are better than they way we are currently acting. Wasn’t our country built on the tenet that we are all free to have our own opinions and to express them? It’s high time we got back to focusing on that principle instead of the way we have been…

And no, I don’t feel better now but I will again soon.

–Amara

Ready, Set, Change! January 9, 2011

Posted by Ann Bertorelli in ontological coaching, Self-Development.
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Last week’s post was about starting a new year, not with resolutions but with the setting of intentions. After I posted   it, my friend Karen sent me a post by Chris Brogan (the king of bloggers) on a similar topic. After I read Chris’ post entitled “My 3 Words for 2011”, I added another word to the two keywords that I had already selected. My previously stated keywords were Expansiveness and Service. After reading Chris’ post I have added Creativity to my list since I realized that a year without focusing on creativity would be a bleak year indeed. Take a peek at his post and see what you’re inspired to do.

Segue!!

Now a smooth segue into the topic for today…new beginnings. (See how I did that?) It’s related to last week’s topic but I’m writing it because my friend is starting a new endeavor tomorrow and I’ve been thinking about what that might mean to him as well as to those of you who read this blog. (Of course he probably won’t see one new thing in this meaningful and well-crafted nugget since he has been listening to me for quite some time but I hope you will.)

Let’s hear it for new beginnings…

New beginnings are yummy—like a brand new year, like a new boyfriend, like a new quilting project, like becoming a grandparent. You have the great opportunity to do something different and better and perhaps even to atone for the things that didn’t previously go so well. Beginnings can be scary too but most of us are smart enough to just push through the fear and get on with it.

I’m thinking back to some of the significant beginnings I’ve had in my life. Was I intentional as I embarked on the new experience? Probably not. I like to think that I am now a bit more conscious about what I want to produce than I used to be. It is, after all, my story and I’m sticking to it…

What you might consider

So if I were starting a new job tomorrow (as an example), what would I be considering? Here’s a short and thus not exhaustive list:

  • Who I want to be (the eternal ontological coaching question) Embedded in this question is some awareness of what I bring that is unique or special. What are my talents and skills that can add value in the new situation? What values do I believe it necessary to embody no matter how fabulous or not-so-fabulous the situation is? What is my promise to the world—or at least the part of the world that I inhabit?
  • What mistakes or missteps I made in the past that produced results that I didn’t value. Sometimes it’s possible to identify these without knowing how we could have done any better. Not to worry. That’s where my oft repeated mantra of INTENTION comes into play. I may not know how to be better but if I have a pretty clear picture of what I’m going for, I can use that as my North Star. From that picture, actions will either be ruled out or suggested based on my stated intention.
  • What value I want to produce for myself in the proposition. Make no mistake–unless you are producing value for yourself in addition to producing value for others—you won’t be having fun. And really, why the heck do anything if you’re not having fun? Especially if that ‘anything’ happens to be a job that takes up 40-60 hours a week of your time.

Now you try

How about you start something new?  Do something different. Start small if you really, really hate change. Today when I pulled into the Borders parking lot I made the heroic decision to park in a different section of the parking lot than I have been parking in for the last 10 years or so…Gutsy—maybe not. But it reminds me that I am about making changes, big and small. Changes, that is, that are productive and fun…

Wanna try?

–Amara